Tag: OVERTHINKING

First and foremost, you need to know that Over-thinking and Expectations are the root causes of negativity. Now, let us try to understand how both these factors affect us negatively. It is imperative for you to indulge in any activity, where you act more and think less. Try to keep yourself busy. When you keep yourself busy in a constructive activity, there is less scope of idle thinking. It surely helps you to overcome negativity.  See, Over-thinking takes you away from the present moment. As a result, you are less responsive in the NOW. Subsequently, you are not able to speak out negativity when you feel it. Remember, awareness in the present moment helps you to speak out negativity whenever and wherever you feel it. Summon into mind that speaking out negativity is nothing but positivity. START MEDITATING.  Moreover, avoid spending time alone unless you love solitude. Spending alone time for an elongated period gives way to the feeling of loneliness and desolation. Try to connect with friends and new people frequently. Finally, one important art to learn is maintaining a balance between both the appearances of self(physical appearance and mental appearance). Never allow your mental appearance reach anywhere and everywhere leaving your physical appearance behind. 

Sometimes, we overburden our mind with many things. The most of these many things are so petty that don't deserve a place in our minds. On the contrary, these trivial things occupy the most of our mind's space. It consumes the most of our time as well as energy, which we can utilize elsewhere. So, before we think anything, we need to prioritize our thoughts. Subsequently, it is essential to ask ourselves whether that particular matter is important now or there are other things which require our attention.  Also, what we can do is set a time limit for every work and action. Let us not over-occupy ourselves in anything for an elongated period. Let us divert our mind by indulging in something else. Indulgence in something else breaks the chain of current thoughts. Even, there are some situations where we become rattled and clueless. In those cases, we should not hesitate to take the help from people who are good at it. We should never feel ashamed as help from somebody will only enhance our skills.  Furthermore, taking breaks from work after a specified time duration is also important. It soothes our mind.  Last but not the least, spending quality time with family and friends keeps us away from stressful situations, and consequently keeps us away from overthinking. Nonetheless, it is not at that easy as it looks. Most of the times, thoughts are not under our control. Managing and prioritizing the thinking process is extremely difficult. LET US START MEDITATING.  Meditation is a channel to connect with the inner self. Until and unless we explore our inner self, we will not be able to regulate and monitor our thought process. Learning the art of Meditation may take some time, but we need to be patient. Rest assured, we will discover the magic. Moreover, once we taste its feel, the thought process shall certainly be in our control.      

Any single event or a set of events can trigger a thought process, which can lead to negativity. It is a vicious circle which starts with a single thought and then takes a severe form. Let us try to seek solutions. A tree cannot stand tall until it's roots are strong. Likewise, instead of wasting our energy on negativity, we should focus on the cause of the problem which is inducing negativity. Straight out, most of the times, the root cause of negativity is overthinking. A brain is a powerful tool and therefore is extremely difficult to control the flow of thoughts. Nevertheless, what we can monitor is the quality of our thoughts. We do not have to burden our mind unnecessarily with petty issues. We never realize when these small things start taking a toll on our mental health, leading to negativity.  Let us start from the beginning... Let us try to start our day with a smile even if we don't feel like smiling. It will be our conscious effort to start our day positive. Let us try to take out some time for a walk or some exercise. Definitely, it will release some happy hormones. Nature is the biggest healer and the greatest source of positive energy.  Connecting to it via meditation can do wonders in our lives. Our diet also plays a significant role in staying physically and mentally healthy. A healthy body holds a healthy brain that will help to think positively. Let us follow compassion. Helping the needy leads to contentment and eliminates negativity. Coming back to feelings, whenever we feel that something is bothering us, we should never hesitate to talk to a person who is close to us.We should never hold our thoughts, always allow them to flow out. 'Expressing' our inside world to the outside world is a deliberate attempt to convert the negativity to positivity.   We must also summon into minds that 'Change' is a part of our life. Let us grow every day by adapting to changes. Sometimes, we are afraid of changes because we enjoy our comfort zone.  However, it is necessary to choose a change over comfort zone. Small changes in life can do wonders.  A single ray of hope can vanish the darkness of our souls. Let us try to connect with the people who are less privileged than us. Surely, we will see a whole new different world. We must always keep in mind that life is too short and unpredictable to feel negativity. Let us enjoy it.                 

This write-up is quite close to my heart as it is straight out from my heart. I was going through an ugly phase in my life, and like many others didn't have the courage to accept it. That phase has taught me a lot and it is my responsibility to share a few of my realizations. As it comes: First of all, be patient. RELAX. It is entirely reasonable. In fact, don’t forget to Thank God as He has made you an emotionally active person. Also, you are smarter and pro-active than many others. It is because you at least understood, realized and accepted the fact that you are facing rational problems and now, you are ready to challenge it and find the solutions to these problems. It is the reason why you are here, scrolling down, seeking solutions to solve your physiological mysteries. Well done mate! You deserve a pat on your back as you landed on the right harbor.  Believe me; I can completely understand what you are going through from inside. It is the flood of negative emotions inside you, which is not only keeping you away from happiness but also choking your breath.  Reasons to feel negative: I know your reasons to feel negative might be varied and classified. Sometimes, you blame people, at times situations and sometimes destiny for your negativity. Actually, It is opposite to the way you think.You need to realize that facing negativity is not a problem.A bitter realization is on its way...You need to realize the cause of your negativity is no one except YOU. It might have come hard at you but most of the times, it is a fact. The sooner you realize it, the sooner you act to target the right cause for your negativity and subsequently, act upon it. Friends, we all love the blame game. Nevertheless, what happens after the blame game? Do you feel light or does your negativity gets eliminated? No, never. In fact, it acts as a base to attract more negative energies. This process goes on and on until you become an entirely negative person. The entire process: You need to comprehend the vicious circle, which is ruining us. It will enable you to target the right problem and work on that. Let me explain this vicious circle by boiling down to the nitty-gritty. The vicious circle: Idleness- Thinking- Overthinking- Feel less- Losing the awareness in the present moment-Losing happiness- Negative thinking- A fully negative person- Blame game- Non-productivity/Idleness. This flow chain says it all. Let me explain it to you quickly. You are not always working. Sometimes, when your mind is not working, instead of feeling and enjoying the now, most of us involve our minds in idle-thinking. Idle-thinking is extremely dangerous as your mind is not thinking about anything productive that time. When that thinking is stretched for an elongated time, it leads to overthinking. Overthinking about anything non-productive acts as a base to attract other negative energies. One point to be noted is that it is the idle-thinking, which I am talking about,...