Wish on my deathbed…

A heart-breaking open letter from a person who just received a call from the other side!!!

deathbed wish

I am dying at 35 but this is not what is hurting me…What’s painful is that when I look back, I don’t recall 35 memories to cherish!!! The journey has not been worth remembering.

I am not saying that I was sad throughout my life, but yes I am saying that I always struggled to feel happy. Never had I felt what I am realizing now, which is the difference between real happiness and materialistic happiness

And the irony is when I have realized it, I cannot be happy. I am dying and practically speaking, I cannot choose happiness. I can only miss happiness. But at least you have the option to choose…choose it now.

deathbed wish

You might be curious to know what happened suddenly that my life turned upside down?

I am literally into tears to pen it down but I will, just to make you realize that today is my turn, likewise, it can be yours tomorrow. And I don’t want you to die like me, just like that.

Well…nothing much to tell because it was all good a week back. Just a slight pain in my stomach which led to a couple to tests. Huh…to find what?

The final stage of liver cancer with a news…the news that I have a few months, weeks or maybe days left. Pretty hard to live with the fact that I am dying anytime soon.

But wait a minute, is this something new I got to know? Is it really a news to me that I might die soon? Was I not aware of it or rather are ‘we’ not aware of it that we will die one day?

I am sure even you know about this inevitable truth but there is a difference between you knowing and me knowing it…

The difference is that I can feel it now but I’m not sure that you can!!!

Sorry to say this but maybe you die before me and trust me, it is definitely possible. If I am sounding weird, let me back it with a testimony.

About a month back, I heard a shocking news that a 40-year-old man from my vicinity is diagnosed with a final stage brain tumor and he does not have much time left. I know him personally and I was shattered to hear this. I remember I was saying to my wife that 40 is not an age to die. How could be God so cruel? Ha…never dared to imagine that I am dying before him in my thirties.

Now I am sure that you got a pinch of my taste!!! This is how unpredictable life is.

I close my eyes at night more in fear as to whether they would open to see a morning…sometimes I wonder what is a bigger challenge? To die gracefully or to live gracefully? Because suddenly I see my definition of challenges changing significantly.
I could sense the definition of my success changing, which was once to earn bread, and what is now to earn breaths. I could differentiate between my attitude today which is to let it go, which was once to let it come…I could suddenly sense the definition of my future changing, which was once ‘after 5 years’ to a mere ‘tomorrow’ today. 

But I have to be hopeful, I guess the only way I should perceive it. 

And when I see the positive side, 

I feel that how adventurous and exciting life would become if everyone realizes that death is always around the corner. And this could be my last breath or my last day. Only then, we would realize the real value of the precious time so that we start doing what we want to do NOW. And most importantly, to know the purpose of life, which is to feel the happiness right here right now in the present moment.

I wish I could have lived my life this way, the way of living would have been different. I am going to die anytime soon, and so are you. It took a bit longer for me to realize and here I ask you, when are you going to realize it?

Nowadays, I face some moments when I break down. In those weak moments, I get tempted to consider the option of suicide. Yes, the option to chose the time, place and the medium of death seems better to me, than to wait for it in fear. 

But thankfully, at that time, I am always hit by a realization…A realization that my life was always unpredictable. And I am fortunate that I have been made to realize it, so what by cancer. At least now, I would appreciate what I have got and live every moment to the core, which otherwise would not have been possible because of the unawareness.  

In this dramatic twist, a quote from “Bob Marley” keeps me boosted which says…

“You never know how strong you are


being strong is your only choice.”

Yes…now I’m able to see life above the normal level. It looks different altogether. Looks like a circus where everyone is a cartoon-character playing their role and just waiting…waiting for the play to get over. Everyone appears like sand-heaps of different shapes and sizes at the seashore, standing tall never to realize the tide is around the corner to take them to the gallows.


My dear friend, this letter is to make you realize that both of us are on the same boat. But neither of us is the driver of the boat…
It is because even I didn’t know till yesterday about a heartbreaking today that I am going to die tomorrow…
I wanted to face life eye to eye without realizing that what I am eying is not life but death. You know, I was always concerned about my physical appearance. But today, when I ask myself that whether is it my physical appearance  I am concerned about?… My soul bursts out into laughter, and its laugh is a brutally honest answer!!!


Here I share a few of my heartfelt realizations…

If you are fortunate enough to meet your basic needs of food, clothes, and shelter, you qualify to be happy. And this is where your happiness becomes your choice. Because I have seen people sad or depressed even after owning everything which can be materialistically bought. I have to accept on my deathbed that I was one of them.

And on the other hand, I have seen another set of people dancing in the rains unaware of the source of their next meal.

Always remember,
Death never distinguishes between the rich and the poor.

Please start flowing with every moment. I am not saying that don’t plan for the future…yes, do plan your future but not at the cost of today’s happiness. You just don’t know what the subsequent moment has in store for you.

A few dimensions in which I failed but I want you to realize it…

  • Stop living life for others- It is your life so please stop killing your originality by becoming a puppet for others.
  • Forgive others- Life is too short for keeping grudges. Forgive to forget and allow their karma to take your revenge.
  • Move on from guilts and regrets– It is quite human to commit mistakes and errors. Just let it go. Please don’t stick to it to kill your self-attributes, particularly your confidence and esteem.
  • Identify the cause if your sadness is prolonged- Sadness is an emotion and there is no problem with it. But if it is over-extended, try to address the problem and rectify it.
  • Stop comparing and competing yourself with others- Everyone is unique in their own way. When you compare and compete with others, you can never bring out the best within you. Please stop it to stay away from jealousy and hatred.
  • Appreciate what you have- Crying over what you don’t have kills the ability to appreciate what you have. This way, you can never be happy. Stop doing it.
  • Do what you got to do NOW- Never delay anything for tomorrow when you can do it now. You are only the controller of your now, not the next moment, remember it. 

My final words before I bid adieu…

When you are cursing your luck over problems, big or small, you don’t realize how lucky you are to just breathe. Just remember that your life-clock is ticking even when your wristwatch is dead. And just like your wristwatch which stops ticking unexpectedly, so can your life-clock. Sink into your mind that Delaying happiness is Denying happiness!!!

My dear friend, trust this friend who is expressing these feelings…Maybe I am not close enough to you, but yes I’m trustworthy enough not to lie on my deathbed. Because my last wish is that your last wish should never start with ‘I wish I could have’. 

Stop living a life which people want you to live, and start living for yourself and for the ones who love you unconditionally. Please stop dying before you die, die only when there is no fear of death!!!


Stop counting your breaths


make sure you make the breaths count.