Tag: SELF-BELIEF

What is an aura? According to the Oxford Dictionary, the definition of aura is “the distinctive atmosphere or quality that seems to surround and be generated by a person, thing, or place.” If you ask me in simple words, your aura is the surrounding energy you create by your presence. Wherever you are and whatever you do, your aura always surrounds you. So you can say your presence is the creator of your aura. More powerful your presence, more dominant your aura. Similarly, your inactive presence lowers the intensity of your aura.  There are many reasons why it is important to raise the intensity of your aura: To be yourself... When your aura is strong, your appearance is not deceptive, and showcase what you are. It authenticates your individuality and originality. To take your independent decisions... Powerful aura powers self-belief. And when you believe in yourself, you are not afraid of taking bold and independent decisions. To say NO to others... You are not under people’s influence when the presence of your aura is strong. You don’t get carried away by them, which is difficult otherwise. To test the boundaries of your comfort zone... Your self-motivation keeps you ready to confront new challenges, which enhances your personal and professional growth.  To stop being a soft target for others... You never get attacked by others, never get bullied and nobody takes you for granted.   To become a proposer, not a seconder... When your aura is strong, you initiate things in your personal and professional sphere. You never play the waiting game. This way, you enforce your aura on others. To stop being a puppet of others... People cannot make you dance to their tunes. They cannot take undue advantages from you either. To become a leader, not a follower... You attract people by your aura. And the queue is always behind you. To follow your dreams and passion... Following dreams and passion is difficult. You need to be strong and ready to endure. Powerful aura provides the impetus.  (Find out whether the passion-driven journey is easy or tough?) To stop fearing people’s judgments... It does not concern you how people see you and perceive you. You are on your own. To fall in love with none other than oneself... You don’t commit to things which can hurt your self-respect. You don’t fall prey to the self-harming thoughts, which enables you to develop self-love.                      And to stop being a television whose channels are changed by the person, in whose aura you are dwelling. Let’s find out how do you raise the intensity of your aura? Try to carry out a simple process... Be it anything big or small,  refrain yourself from doing it for the sake of doing it. Try to find out a motto behind every subsequent action. When there is a motive, you do it putting in efforts and belief behind it.  This way, you can commit to it. You feel it from within, which gives you a sense of satisfaction. And my dear friend, when you feel whatever you do, you will fall in love with...

Allow me to begin the write-up with a small story. It will enable you to understand and connect with the realizations better. It is just a conventional yet striking conversation inside the dressing room between the Captain and the Vice-Captain of a cricket team. To boot, the lesson learned from it is astounding. A gripping conversation: Captain: I don’t know, I am a bit confused whether I should bat at my usual batting position or should I bat next immediately after the fall of a wicket? Singh, who is customary to bat next is a not a very comfortable against spin. The previous two wickets which have fallen are of the spinner. Moreover, I think I can handle the spinners and the pressure better than him. Vice-Captain: Then, go for it captain. Who is stopping you? Trust your instincts. Stand by your self-belief. Captain: I discussed it with the coach. He does not seem to agree with me. He does not want any change in the batting line-up. My performance in the entire series has not been satisfactory. It is a very big reason why he is not backing up my decision. Vice-Captain: (Smiles). Captain, you are my idol. In fact, you are an idol for the entire team. You make everyone proud when it comes to making independent decisions on and off the field. Not many are convinced when you take an unorthodox independent decision. However, all the critics are answered after the result of the game, which is most of the times in our favor. It is your self-belief, which makes things happen. The entire team looks up to you when we get stuck in a panic situation. You have never allowed the temperature of the dressing room rise. You have provided the best of answers to others’ question. Having said that, I am sorry, but I am shocked to observe the uncertainty in your eyes right now. Why this uncertainty captain? You already have the answers to your questions. You can read the game better than anybody else in the team. Why are you not able to listen and abide by the answers to your questions? How can you allow just a poor performance in one series fade out your self-belief? How can you allow the coach to answer your questions, when you already have the answers? On top of that, you know that your answers are right. One more thing Captain, suppose you acknowledge the coach’s decision and if it proves to be wrong, we will either lose the best captain or a good coach. Yes, we will no longer be able to look up to you when it comes to making tough decisions in the way we used to. Also, neither you will ask the coach for the valuable inputs nor the coach will be able to extend his best support. Indeed, we have coaches and mentors who help us, assist us, and guide us. Nevertheless, we must never let them define us. Captain: Thank you for the advice brother. Now, I can...

You might face many situations in life where you know that you did well. Also, for that, you seek appreciation from others. You might deserve it, but sometimes you don't get it. It is quite disheartening. Friends, you need to comprehend that it is a cruel world out there. The sooner you realize it, the better it will be for you. Everyone is primarily concerned about themselves. All are busy exploring their ways to healthy and happy living. Nobody is interested in knowing your credentials and achievements. Whatmore, you are also one of them. Moreover, there is no harm in it because life is equally tough for everyone. Therefore, instead of criticizing them, start motivating yourself.  It’s a much-deserved reward after a long, tiring day to remind you that you did great today. It not only uplifts your mood but also enables you to push your limits. It creates a belief of satisfaction and self-confidence. A self -motivated person never looks outside for happiness, as the happiness resides inside them. It is vital to applaud for own-self because you only know how much effort has been put to make things possible. Self-motivation decorates your spirit with strength and self -empowerment. It uplifts you to do things with more vigor and confidence.  It helps you enjoy the success. It also helps you to accept failures, which pushes you to convert that failure into success. Therefore, always treat yourself when you do something good. Keep yourself boosted and motivated. Always keep the spirits high.