Did you ever fall in love?
If you have, just keep reading and you will once again… but this time with none other than oneself.
A mere physical attraction!
Not even that? Please close this screen and get your hormones checked first.
Love beyond judgmental mind
In fact, many love stories geminate on attraction.
You don’t play mind games when you are in love, know that person inside out.
You accept them gracefully without any concern about their physical or mental appearance.
12 qualities when you are in love
Balancing out others’ weaknesses
Not only you appreciate their strengths but also try to cover up their weaknesses.
Forgiveness
You may fight with the person whom you love, land in arguments but eventually, you forgive him/her.
Not holding back to apologize
It’s because you value your relationship more than your ego.
Expressing Love
You don’t hold back in making them feel special.
Make them realize when they are wrong
Respect Differences
You might have nothing in common but maybe this is what you like about them.
Never insult them
When you love them, you never make fun of them, never embarrass them.
You never hurt their sentiments intentionally.
Respect and Trust Them
You trust them more than anyone else.
The reason is you know that respect and trust are strong foundations of a healthy love relationship.
Motivate and Encourage
No Comparison
You love them the way they are and you never want to change their uniqueness.
Always around in there tough times
And you never leave their hand in their darkest of phases.
Flowing love
I am sure you could relate to many of these feelings if you have ever been in love. But let me raise a question on your behalf.
Aren’t we talking about the fortunate ideal relationships?
Heartfelt curiosities
Dear friend, even if your infatuation transpired into love, does it guarantee the same reciprocation from the one you love?
What about those one-sided love and those broken trusts?
You cannot ignore those.
In fact needs more attention as the way people get affected.
When you don’t get the same reciprocation, it hurts, and it hurts terribly.
But you know, you cannot blame the person concerned either.
It’s because love is your choice which you cannot subject to expectations.
How do we overcome this pain?
You might be the one on this boat seeking the shore.
So here I present to you a straightforward solution…
Start loving yourself and get rid of that pain.
You need not do anything different.
Just scroll up and read the 12 qualities when you are in love with someone, the same needs to be practiced with oneself.
The step by step process to Self Love
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Self-Awareness
Dedicate at least 30 min to Me-time, preferably in the mornings where you observe everything brushing your mind without judgments.
It brings clarity.
The more you know yourself, the more you thrive to become a better individual.
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Self-Acceptance
The subsequent step is accepting yourself the way you are.
Humans commit mistakes, not robots.
This is when self-confession is important so you don’t have to criticize and punish yourself for your mistakes and failures.
Learn from them and make sure you don’t commit them again.
It cuts the flow of self-harming thoughts if any.
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Self-Compassion
Hereon, you counter thoughts of self-hatred.
Sometimes, your mind wants to commit actions which your soul can feel are wrong.
And when you commit to it, your soul gets hurt.
When the soul is hurt, you cannot love yourself.
Practice self-control and make a conscious effort not to commit to it.
Take up little instances where you say no to yourself.
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Self-love
You reach a state where you stop judging and start loving oneself.
And when you reach this state, everyone and everything around becomes beautiful.
What better, when you love anyone after reaching the state of self-love, your love for them is pure and unconditional.
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Self-absorption!
Careful! You don’t have to reach here.
Stop in the previous step.
Because sometimes when you love yourself, everything about you is perfect for you.
In this state, you cannot identify your shortcomings and weaknesses.
And finally, self-love may turn into self-obsession and you might become an egoistic mind.
Must read…Differences between ego and self-respect
Hang on, there are still some unanswered questions…
What if you are not seeking shores and you want your boat to keep sailing always?
If that’s the case, is there a possibility that your boat drowns at some time?
What I mean is even if you are one of those lucky ones whose love for someone has found reciprocation, does that guarantee a life-time togetherness?
Life is unpredictably short.
An unpredictable end of a successful love relationship hurts even more.
It is because of the attachment and bond you share with them.
If I were to answer
“Attachment is the root cause of suffering”
Yes, if you have the gift of self-love, the recovery state is easier.
So here I conclude that irrespective of whether it is a one-sided love affair or a mutual love relation, self-love must be above all.
What are the positive extracts from self-love?
- It always restricts you from consciously committing the wrong.
- You never fall, you always rise in self-love. It is because you never get cheated or betrayed.
- You don’t get affected by what people have to say about you because self-love creates a strong aura.
- The best thing… the person whom you love is always with you till your last breath.
Final Realizations
I never say don’t fall in love with anyone.
But never let your innocence die because of someone and lose self-love.
Always let love for oneself be supreme.
This way, no matter if you fall prey to the broken trusts, one-sided love, or inevitable-destines, rest assured, you will never get hurt.
Your self-love will not let that happen.
Good luck!
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