Have you ever fallen in love?
Here are your 12 qualities when you are in love…
1. Balancing your partners’ weaknesses
3. Not holding back in saying sorry
4. Expressing love
5. Make them realize they’re wrong
6. Respect Differences
7. Never insult them
8. Respect and trust them
9. Motivate and Encourage
10. No comparison
11. Always around in the tough times
12. Endless love
A few heartfelt curiosities…
START LOVING YOURSELF and get rid of that pain. You need not do anything different. Just scroll up and read the 12 qualities when you are in love with someone, the same needs to be practiced with oneself.
Give alone time to yourself preferably in the mornings where you talk to oneself. When you talk to yourself, you will know yourself better. The more you know yourself, the more you thrive to become a better individual.
The subsequent step is accepting you the way you are and not being hard on yourself. Humans commit mistakes, not robots. This is when self-confession is important so you don’t have to criticize and punish yourself for your mistakes and failures. Learn from them and make sure you don’t commit them again. It will restrict the flow of self-harming thoughts if any.
Gradually, you avoid actions of self-hatred. Sometimes, your mind wants to commit actions which your soul can feel are wrong. And when you commit to it, your soul gets hurt. I am sorry but when the soul is hurt, you cannot love yourself.
Please make a conscious effort not to commit to it. Implement in small instances where you say no to yourself.
And now you reach a state where you stop judging and start loving oneself. And when you reach this state, everyone and everything around becomes beautiful. What better, when you love anyone after reaching the state of self-love, your love for them is pure and unconditional.
Beware… You don’t have to reach here. Stop in the previous step. Because sometimes when you love yourself, everything about you is perfect for you. In this state, you cannot identify your shortcomings and weaknesses. And finally, self-love may turn into self-obsession and you might become an egoistic soul.
Must read…Differences between ego and self-respect
The interesting part…
Hang on, there are still some unanswered questions…
What if you are not seeking shores and you want your boat to keep sailing always? In if this is the case, is there a possibility that your sailing boat drowns at some time? What I mean is even if you are one of those lucky ones whose love for someone has found the same reciprocation, does that mean they’ll be with you till your lifetime?
Don’t take me wrong but life is unpredictably short. An unpredictable end of a successful love relationship hurts even more. It is because of the attachment and bond you share with your loved one.
And again if you ask me the answer…
“Attachment is the root cause of suffering”
Yes, if you have the gift of self-love, the recovery state is easier.
So here I conclude that irrespective of whether it is a one-sided love affair or a mutual love relation, self-love must be above all.
What are the positive extracts from self-love?
- It always restricts you from consciously committing the wrong.
- You never fall, you always rise in self-love. It is because you never get cheated or betrayed.
- You don’t get affected by what people have to say about you because self-love creates a strong aura.
- The best thing… the person whom you love is always with you till your last breath.
I never say don’t fall in love with anyone. But never let your innocence die because of someone and lose self-love. Always let the love for oneself be supreme. This way, no matter if you fall prey to the broken trusts, one-sided love or inevitable-destines, rest assured, you will never get hurt. Your self-love will not let that happen.