Have you ever felt that the fear created by your mind is intense than the actual face of the feared moment? And if you don’t fear it, you respond better being it a spontaneous moment?
Let us simplify it.
The process where you fear your fear…
The problem starts with thinking about the fear right from the outset you get to know you have to face an unusual situation. It soon turns into an apprehension.
Your mind distresses because of over-thinking about one thing-the feared moment. As a result, you get detached from the present moment.
But after the actualization of the feared moment, surprisingly you realize that you could have dealt better with it. But the real problem was the fear of fear, with the actual intensity of the problem being extremely low.
This way, you never win over your fear, and the fear retains inside you because you did not kill it.
I am sure you have gone through this process many times.
A few realizations…
Fear has nothing to do with being brave or a coward. Everyone fears someone or something. It even works as a boon as it allows you to prepare to face it.
But the problem arises when you don’t do anything about it. You keep fearing that moment until it arrives. This way, you never overcome that fear. Adding to your plight, fearing the fear gives birth to many other negative emotions. Eventually, it kills the essence and feel of the now.
You see, it is all connected and is a vicious circle.
Reasons you fear…
1. Non-awareness of mind in the present moment
You do not live the life surrounding you. Instead, you think either about your past or future. It leads to over-thinking and you lose awareness in the present moment. Eventually, overthinking makes way for apprehensions.
2. Low in inner-self attributes
When you are low in self-confidence and self-esteem, you don’t back yourself and trust yourself. Your fear keeps revolving inside your mind, leading to worries and apprehensions.
3. An unpleasant past
When you have a troubled past, you don’t have pleasant memories to cherish. You relate those dark instances of the past to every upcoming situation and attach apprehensions in the process.
What do you fear? (This is important…)
It relates to your aura. When you do not dwell on your own aura, others’ aura becomes dominant on you. People define your living and thinking because you are under their influence. You become dependent on them and in the process; you fear people.
Straight out solution…
When you are right according to you, don’t care even if it is wrong according to people. Just back your right with a positive attitude and confidence.
You are usually uncomfortable with the news of facing anything new. The situations which force you to step out of your comfort zone becomes the cause of your fear.
Straight out solution…
You just need to alter your thinking because unless you welcome the new, you will never be able to expand the boundaries of your comfort zone. And if you want to excel in life, you need to challenge those boundaries.
The deadliest fear… I do not intend to scare you. Other fears can be illusionary but not the fear of death. It is destiny. It is bound to happen. And this the reason which makes it hard to conquer. Any other fear can be eliminated by facing it. But this rule does not apply in case of death… obvious reasons, right?
Straight out solution…
A man’s biggest fear Death is not only inevitable but it is always round the corner. Yes, we are all going to die one day… when? how? nobody knows… but one thing is for sure… DEATH. This is why acceptance has a huge role to play. Sooner we accept it, easier it becomes to overcome the fear of death.
Since death is certain, one profound lesson we must take from it is to live every moment. And trust me, once you overcome the fear of death, fear of people and situations will not be challenging anymore. Life will become an adventurous trip… So, Stop dying before you die.
You know why fear is hard to conquer?
The reason is that not only your mind but also your body feels the fear. It is difficult to control the mind and body simultaneously. This is what makes it a tough battle.
Conquering the fear…
My dear friend, either you can dread your fear or face it courageously and kill it.
the one who fears always fear,
only the reason of fear changes…
If your boarded flight is supposed to crash, it will crash. You cannot land on a parachute unless you are pilot on that flight. The same is applicable to your life journey. Either become the pilot of your life journey and do something about your fear or let your fear drive you the way it wants. The choice is entirely yours…
Always remember that fear is your mind’s creation which does not has a documented existence. It is created by your past which haunts your future. Surprisingly, it has nothing to do with your present.
Time for some Happy Realizations…
I know overcoming fear is not easy. But trust me, it is not impossible either. Nothing boosts you more than the feeling of beating your fear. It also acts as a base to overcome the upcoming fears.
The fight with your fear is a fight with yourself. Keep challenging yourself and keep pushing your limits. The best way of overcoming fear is by MEDITATION… nothing above it. Meditation makes you aware of the now. It refrains you from overthinking, which is the biggest reason for fear.
‘FEAR KILLS HAPPINESS.’ Kill your fear or else the fear will kill you. Look straight into the eyes of fear and shout “Bring it on because I am ready now”… Yes mate, always welcome the change instead of fearing it. Good luck!!!
Amanpreet Singh is the founder of Happy Realization. From the negatives of depression to the positives of meditation, he loves expressing his experiences and the practical life lessons which he calls his Happy Realizations. He is a guest blogger in esteemed publications like Lifehack, Pick the Brain and Dumb Little Man.