(Last Updated On: March 8, 2018)Your right and wrong beliefs are subjected to many spheres- personal, professional, political, economic and so on. But a person’s life revolves largely around two spheres-personal and professional.
Involving these two spheres, let us take the help of illustrations straight away to unlock the right and wrong beliefs.
You can have right and wrong beliefs about:
Let us take a situation-based instance from the personal sphere…
My question to you…‘Is God right or wrong?’ I know the question sounds weird but trust me it’s logical.
Now, did you feel that your spontaneous answer is biased towards your current situation? Confused?
Let me clear this out for you. Maybe, there was a time when your life was a fairytale with happiness all around. God must have been right for you then, right?
I am sorry but if we need to assume the other side…Say you surface any sudden loss or failure. Your life gets shattered and there is sadness all around. It becomes quite easy for you to blame God for it and obviously, even The God is wrong for you at this time.
Please be brave enough to accept that it happens…Yes, it happens with most of us.
What I want to say is…your answer today will be based on the situation you are in today.You felt it, right? And this is what happens most of the times. The spontaneity to react to a given situation bypasses the concepts of right and wrong.
Let us take the example involving people in your professional sphere…
If I ask you whether your boss is right or wrong?
Obviously, your answer shall be based on the current tuning with him. Yes, even your boss is not always wrong according to you.
The day when he screams at you or overburdens you with work, he is wrong. But the day when he applauds you or offers you incentives or talks about your salary raise, the same boss is right.
The same thinking is applicable when you are the boss… The day you see your employee overtimes, cracks a deal, achieves targets, he is right… and when he takes long leaves, asks for a salary hike, commits mistakes, he is wrong.
I hope you agree that it happens more often than not…
One observation drawn from this example is that you adjusted your right and wrong as per time and situation you are in…Well whether this adjustment of yours is right or wrong, let us find out…
Here’s the interesting part…
You are just another person who makes a choice as per his convenience of time and situation…and likewise, others are doing it. Almost all of us think this way. And there is nothing wrong about it.
Your right and wrong are molded as per time and situation you are in. It is all about the priorities and choices you make. And you don’t need to feel sorry about the same. It is the practicality of the real world. So please stop judging people and situations, and stop labeling them right or wrong…
An eye opener…
When your life is loaded with materialistic options, you might think that thinking always about the money is wrong. But God forbid, when you are not even able to fulfill your basic necessities of life, all you want is money. Now tell me, what is right and what is wrong? When were you right and when are you wrong?
Now, will you judge yourself?
I am sure you will not…I asked you this just to expand the horizon of your right-wrong beliefs.
Time for in-depth realizations!!!
You define your right and wrong based on your own judgments, experiences, understanding, and knowledge. And it is perfectly fine.
But do you know what is unacceptable? It’s when you allow people to define your right and wrong…Yes it’s unacceptable.
The people’s role:
Knowingly or unknowingly, there are also instances when your right or wrong is defined by the people. Yes, you come across many situations where you authorize people to decide your right or wrong.
Na na…never do that. You will never be able to make the correct decisions. Let them guide you but never authorize them to define you. I may be sounding too direct but this is what I firmly believe in. This is what I have learned from my experience. Listen to everybody but authorize oneself to make a call.
What will happen is when your decision proves to be right, you shall be the person responsible for it. It will help you make bold and independent decisions and always keep you self-motivated.
Even if the decision taken proves to be wrong, you will not have anyone else to criticize it, you will know the exact loopholes which shall go down as a wonderful experience. It will make you a responsible individual and you won’t repeat the mistakes again.
Yes, always listen to everybody but never get influenced by others’ responses to a given situation. Remember, nothing and nobody can teach you worthy life-lessons than your mistakes. Mistakes and failures are the gateways to experience. No matter how smart and knowledgeable you are, it is the experience which outsmarts any other abstract quality.
It can happen on several occasions that people’s right is wrong according to you. Never commit to it because when it proves to be wrong, it can cause never-ending pain and regret. Don’t let others dictate the terms for you if you want to reach close to the right-wrong concept. Trust your instincts and gut-feel at decision-time so that it could be counted as an experience, irrespective of the outcome.
Because there is nothing such as right and wrong, the word debate has become quite popular in schools, colleges, students, and friends. And this is the way we learn new things, Right? But these are just opinions of a different set of individuals which has nothing to do with right and wrong.
Parameters which always remain constant:
Keep doing whatever you want but never forget that sooner or later, you have to settle your accounts with your karma.
You just can’t get away with everything saying that there is nothing called as right or wrong. Some domains must always remain constant…your values, morals, character, attitude.
You cannot justify the thefts, robberies, rapes ,killing people and so on…No, you just cannot call it right.
You need to be right where you are answerable at least to yourself. Never forget that your right to please yourself never gives you the right to inflict pain on others, at least intentionally.
- It should not hurt anyone.
- It should not be defined by anyone except you.
- It must not be against your values and character.
Time for some Happy Realizations!!!
You tend to adjust your right and wrong as per the convenience of time and situation, which is quite reasonable. However, one thing which is unfathomable is letting people decide your right or wrong. This way, you will never be able to unlock your right-wrong beliefs.
Do whatever you want to bypassing the conventional concepts of right and wrong. But at the same time, you need to careful that you don’t hurt anyone intentionally by your choices. Everything is acceptable but always remember, nothing is above the character and values of an individual, which lays his/her foundation. Keep doing things without the people’s judgments of your right or wrong. Allow karma to take care of the rest.
Commit a few mistakes, gain experience and never give others the authority to define your right or wrong. Let your consciousness unlock the gate of your right and wrong.