Tag: APPREHENSION

To overcome fear, let's understand: What is Fear? Fear is just your mind's creation, a byproduct of overthinking, or too much anticipation about anything. It is about the future which has nothing to do with your present. It's better to consciously avoid the thoughts leading to fears. But I'm sure you were unable to do that, that's why you are here, seeking a solution in this article. Let's decode your fear... I feel the problem begins when you try to run away from it instead of facing it. And this is what lands you to fear most of the time. Sometimes, the anxiety about a future event gives way to stress. Gradually, stress makes you apprehensive. Finally, apprehension gives way to fear. Always remember that it is not the fear, but the fear of fear, which is your biggest fear. Let's come straight to the point: How to overcome fear? Well, you have to dive into the river to cross it. You cannot savor the food unless you taste it. It is as simple as that. Similarly, you cannot overcome your fear unless you feel it. And to overcome fear, you need to first accept the fact that you are fearful. And then, you need to listen to your fears carefully. Make sure you don't try to run away from it. Never try to find an escape route without facing it. It's a big blunder you are committing. This way, you'll never be able to win over that fear. You will never be able to prepare yourself to face your fear. You just cannot change the situations every time, make sure you are always in control to chose a response to it. When you have clarity about a response to a situation, you would not want to run away from it. It'll make you feel confident, not apprehensive about it. When there is clarity, you trust your instincts and back it with a positive attitude. You take the problem head-on. You do not overthink, and you do not fear, as simple as that!

Expectations might push you towards your goal, but sometimes they hurt you. Yes, expectations hurt terribly. Well, the people expecting out of you might close to you.  It is because of the closeness with them; you want to fulfill their expectations. As a result, you get overburdened by those expectations. Eventually, what happens is you start believing in the notion of others rather than own self. One thing you need to realize is, if these expectations are not allowing you to breathe freely, these are not your expectations from you. The foremost thing you need to do is explore your inner self and find out your core competencies and the areas of your interest.  Undoubtedly, our loved ones want the best out of us, but sometimes they forget that every individual is unique. Try to make them realize your aspirations, your core competence, your passion and things which you love to do. You need to speak out. Make them a part of your dreams than to get carried by their expectations. If those people expecting from you love you and genuinely care for you, they will understand you. Hang on; there is an another set of individuals who expect from you. They are the people who impose expectations just to hurt you or to hold you back. They are neither your family members nor fall in the category of your friends. They are those people who have not done anything in their lives and hence cannot see others progressing. Please avoid such people and say a big “NO” to them. You owe nothing to such people. Avoid them. One more thing, your expectation should become a reason to push you to achieve your goals rather than to hurt you. It is your life. Never waste it by living it for others.