It’s a very sensitive topic but talking about it is the need of the hour.
You will relate to it if you have ever faced prolonged sadness or depression…
What better if you have never faced it. Because then, it’s an eye-opener to make you realize how it feels to be on the other side.
Sink into the mind that if you have never faced prolonged sadness or depression, it doesn’t assure that you cannot face it. So irrespective of the sides you are in, it is a must-read!!!
As we have already discussed ‘How to overcome negativity and depression’ in one article, here, we shall discuss how to help the depressed people to win the battle over their mental miseries. It might make you feel uncomfortable but we need to talk about it now.
The matter of fact is that there are many people who are desperate for your help. But you cannot realize it.
My friend, a strong realization is coming up…
As it comes:
Mental problems cannot be apparently seen, it is the reason fighting depression has become a humongous challenge. And it is why people facing it don’t want to talk about it. They keep on avoiding it and as a result, keep on struggling with it.
The other big reason depressed people keep battling it alone is that people don’t comprehend their plight.
Trust me, it takes immense courage for a depressed person to confess these problems in front of you. But when they do so, instead of listening to them and helping them out, your approach to their problems is one of the following…
- You present your own worldly problems before them.
- You blame them for their problems.
- You make fun of their problems.
- You don’t take their problems seriously and avoid it.
And as a result, they sink further…
You might wonder ‘Why should I listen to their problems? I am struggling myself, who will listen to my problems?’ Yes, you might have many such questions…
I can understand; as they are struggling to cope with their mental problems, so are you. But don’t you think, just for the sake of humanity, you should at least listen to them, even if you don’t have solutions to their problems.
When you listen to them, there are two conditions possible:
- You have a solution to their problems.
- You don’t have a solution to their problems.
When you have a solution, do you realize that you are a potential lifesaver? Yes, you are…Just a couple of good pieces of advice can give them the needed strength to take their problems head-on. Their approach to their problems can change quickly and drastically.
And even when you don’t have a solution, at least listen to them patiently and show that you are concerned about their problems. They will definitely feel esteemed and wanted. Trust me, depressed people unburden themselves to a great extent if you just listen to them patiently.
But is it happening?
No, it’s not…It is bizarre that most of the times, there is an ego clash between two individuals facing mental miseries. Both want the other person to contemplate their problem first.
There is no denying the fact that most of us consider our own problems as the biggest problem in this world. As a result, we are not patient enough to listen to others’ problems. But the matter of fact is if you want to get heard, you need to hear the other person first.
The bitter truth…
It’s getting painful for me to write this…
You know, most of the people who committed suicide just wanted themselves to get heard. Yes, you read it right and I repeat, they just wanted someone to listen to them…that’s it. But you were so busy living that you couldn’t hear your loved one dying.
After a person commits suicide, how many of us are shell-shocked claiming that he/she was happy yesterday and had no reason to commit suicide?
But you know, the matter of fact is that you can never know what is going inside the mind of the depressed person unless the person reveals it. It is because depression cannot be apparently seen. You often confuse between sadness and depression but depression is much bigger a problem you can imagine.
Many times you even criticize them saying that committing suicide is an act of a coward but tell me, who wants to end their life just like that. No, please don’t take me wrong. Neither I am encouraging suicides nor I am supporting the individuals who committed suicide.
I just want you to feel the intensity of their pain which convinced them that the life on the other side will be better.
Your silent reading thus far says it all…You are struck by a hard realization, and now you want to help others and even yourself.
The bottom line:
You might be wondering how to identify the people who need your help? Well, honestly, this question does not have an answer. But one thing you can always do is listen to the people who try to talk about depression.
Always remember, if they seek help from you in any such matters, you need to realize how close you are to their heart. And this is why they are sharing it with you.
NEVER BREAK THAT TRUST… JUST LISTEN TO THEM…THAT’S IT!!!
I don’t want to be hard on you. Quite possibly, your problems might be mighty than theirs. But then, even you will feel lighter and better just by listening to them.
I am sure you might have experienced that it feels lighter when the other person going through the same suffering shares their problems with you. You start feeling better because you realize that you are not the only one battling against these problems.
Yes, sharing any kind of pain is a pain-reliever for both sides. Let them share their pain so that you could also unburden yourself.
Always remember, depression doesn’t have a face or a mood. If one gets angry quickly or speaks less, go talk to them. Trust me, they just need your love. Stop ignoring your near and dear ones to an extent where they commit suicide to give a proof of depression.
Now here’s my question to you… Are you tolerant enough to prevent a suicide?
Some painful realizations coming up…
You need to realize that depressed people so much self-absorbed that they cannot feel the outside world. Sometimes, the reason for this state of mind is that they know that they have every reason to smile but they are just not able to feel the reasons.
The state of depression kills the ability to feel, and feel is the key to real happiness. As a result, they might look happy but the feel inside is missing. And therefore, never get disguised by others’ smile, you may never get to know the burden of tears they are carrying.
My dear friend, everyone is struggling one way or the other. Let us keep on moving. Let us keep on fighting the demons. Let us not run away from it…
Depression is not a taboo…Talking about it is the need of the hour… Let us stop avoiding it so that suicide never becomes the medium of communication.
Amanpreet Singh is the founder of Happy Realization. From the negatives of depression to the positives of meditation, he loves expressing his experiences and the practical life lessons which he calls his Happy Realizations. He is a guest blogger in esteemed publications like Lifehack, Pick the Brain and Dumb Little Man.