To begin with, let me ask you ‘Do you believe in God?’ It can be a bit weird question for you but please answer it in a yes or a no.
Now, did you feel that your spontaneous answer is biased towards your current situation? Confused? Let me clear this out for you. Maybe, there was a time when you believed in God but now you don’t. It could also be the case that you did not believe in God then but now you do.
In any case, what I want to say is your answer today will be based on the situation you are in today.You feel it, right? This is what happens most of the times. The spontaneity to react to a given situation bypasses the concepts of right and wrong. And this brings me straight to the point, there is nothing such as right or wrong. It is adjusted and molded as per time and situation we are standing. It is all about the choices we make and we don’t have to feel sorry about the same. It is the practicality of the real world.
A person who helped you yesterday was right for you yesterday, but the same person who refuses to help you today can be wrong for you today. But the interesting part is neither he/she was right yesterday nor he is wrong today. He/She is just another person who made/is making a choice as per his/her convenience of time and situation; so are you…
When your life is loaded with materialistic options, you might think that thinking constantly about the money is wrong. But God forbid, when you are not even able to fulfill your basic necessities of life, all you want is money. Now tell me, what is right and what is wrong? When were you right and when are you wrong? I am sure you don’t have answers but don’t worry, nobody has the answers. I have put up these questions just to expand the horizon of your right-wrong beliefs.
Time for some more brain-storming!!!
The people’s role:
Knowingly or unknowingly, there are also instances when your right/wrong is defined by the people. Yes, you come across many situations where you authorize people to decide your right or wrong.
Na Na…never do that. You will never be able to make your own call if you allow people to define your right or wrong. Let them guide you but never authorize them to define you. I may be sounding too direct but this is what I firmly believe in. This is what I have learned from my experience. Listen to everybody but authorize oneself to make a call.
What will happen is when your decision proves to be right, you shall be the person responsible for it. It will help you make bold and independent decisions and always keep you self-motivated.
Even if the decision taken proves to be wrong, you will not have anyone else to criticize it, you will know the exact loopholes which shall go down as a wonderful experience. It will make you a responsible individual and you won’t repeat the mistakes again.
Yes, always listen to everybody but never get influenced by others’ responses to a given situation. Remember, nothing and nobody can teach you worthy life-lessons than your mistakes. Mistakes and failures are the gateways to experience. No matter how smart and knowledgeable you are, it is the experience which outsmarts any other abstract quality.
It can happen on several occasions that people’s right is wrong according to you. Never commit to it because when you commit to it and it proves to be wrong, it can cause never-ending pain and regret. Don’t let others dictate the terms for you if you want to reach close to the right-wrong concept. Trust your instincts and gut-feel at decision-time so that it could be counted as an experience, irrespective of the outcome.
Because there is nothing such as right and wrong, the word debate has become quite popular in schools, colleges, students and friends. And this is the way we learn new things, Right? But these are just opinions of a different set of individuals which has nothing to do with right and wrong.
Parameters which always remain constant:
Keep doing whatever you want but never forget that sooner or later, you have to settle your accounts with your karma.
You just can’t get away with everything saying that there is nothing called as right or wrong. Some domains should always be constant…your values, morals, character, attitude. You need to be right according to you where you are answerable at least to yourself.
Never forget that your right to please yourself never gives you the right to inflict pain on others, at least intentionally.
Things to be taken care of when you make the choices:
- It should not hurt anyone.
- It should not be defined by anyone except you.
- It must not be against your values and character.
Time for some Happy Realizations!!!
Everyone’s right-wrong today is dependent on time, situation, experience, reasoning etc. It can only be defined by how we get affected by it. We tend to adjust our right and wrong as per the convenience of time and situation, which is quite reasonable.However, one thing which is unfathomable is letting people decide your right or wrong. This way, you will never be able to unlock your right-wrong beliefs.
Do whatever you want to bypassing the conventional concepts of right and wrong. But at the same time, you need to careful that you don’t hurt anyone intentionally by your choices. Everything is acceptable but always remember, nothing is above the character and values of an individual, which lays his/her foundation. Keep doing things without the people’s judgments of your right/wrong. Allow karma to take care of the rest.
Commit a few mistakes, gain experience and never give others the authority to define your right or wrong. Let your consciousness unlock the gates of your right and wrong.