(Last Updated On: September 22, 2017) The word ‘Appearance’ is not that easy to comprehend than it appears. The meaning of the word ‘APPEARANCE’ according to of the most of us is sheer ‘Physical appearance.’ However, if we see only the physical aspect of this word, its meaning will become quite elusive and deceptive. Its connotation is a lot more extensive than mere physical appearance. I shall explain every how’s and why’s attached to it.
Apart from physical appearance, there is an another side of appearance, which makes its connotation complete. This aspect is the ‘Mental Appearance.’ Both the elements combined make the meaning of the word ‘Appearance’ absolute. We can say that the word ‘Appearance’ has two aspects. One is physical appearance, and one is the mental appearance.
Let us try to understand the meaning of both the aspects intensely.
Obviously, we all are very aware of the physical appearance aspect. The physical appearance constitutes our apparent looks; face, body, which can be physically seen and felt. It is the visible face of our appearance.
Now let’s understand the mental appearance. The mental appearance is slightly complicated. It is complex because it involves our mind. The involvement of the mind makes it difficult to comprehend.
We all are aware of the fact that it is tough to perceive what exactly is going inside a person’s mind. Our actions are not always the stimuli of what is going inside our unfathomable thoughts. Since others cannot see the mental aspect, it is the intangible face of our appearance.
The connection between the two aspects:
One important thing to realize is that both the aspects of our appearance must be faithful to each other to make us look complete. There must be transparency between the two to authenticate us real and genuine.In this pretentious and hypothetical world, most of us are not able to maintain a healthy relationship between the two aspects. Both the aspects of our appearance do not complement each other. Always remember, only our physical appearance is not a true depicter of what we are.
Let us try to understand it with a simple process:
Our mind is a kingdom of thoughts, the infinite thoughts which we come across daily. Others cannot see our thoughts, they can only feel it. Moreover, our thoughts can be felt by others only when we convert our thoughts into actions. So, as it is virtually impossible to turn every thought into action, at least what we must have the clarity in our thinking.It is the ‘clarity’ of our mind, which enables us to convert our thoughts into actions. At least, whatever we showcase physically must be a response to what we mentally feel. There always should be a transparency between the two. It is only then, we authenticate our identity. It is only then, we will always be originals. It is only then, we can own a distinct identity. It is only then, we can distinguish ourselves from others.
A few in-depth observations:
Interestingly, one thing to be observed is that our physical appearance is the depicter of our complete appearance. We need the help of our physical appearance to reveal our mental appearance. It is the way we appear in front of others, others will see and perceive us. It is the reason why there should not be any discrepancy between both the aspects of our appearance.
At the same time, is it possible in today’s world? Can we implement it in both our personal and professional atmospheres? Isn’t it the ideal condition we are talking? Let’s try to find out.
Our appearance in the professional atmosphere :
In the professional atmosphere, it is virtually impossible to maintain a balance between the both the aspects of our appearance. Obviously, we cannot say to our bosses at our workplace on their faces that we do not like them. Needless to say, we will be thrown out the workplace right away.Yes, we have to be manipulative at our workplaces to progress and succeed. So, what we can conclude is that in the professional sphere, our physical and mental appearances are not truthful to each other. We all know it is wrong, but there is very less we can change about it.
Our appearance in the personal atmosphere:
Summon into minds that on an average, the professional atmosphere only occupies one-third of our day. The remaining part of our day mostly constitutes our personal atmosphere. The area of concern is this part of the day. Always remember, work change, workplaces change but what will remain constant is how we appear in that two-thirds of our day. It is because our personal atmosphere always remains the same. It is this part of our day, which defines us as an individual. At least, our physical and mental appearance must be loyal to each other during this part our day.
It is not easy in the personal atmosphere either to maintain a balance between both the aspects of our appearance, but it is very crucial. After all, it is our appearance in the personal environment, which is our originality and identity. Sometimes even in the personal sphere, our physical appearance agree to people, even if our mental presence is disagreeing. Yes, sometimes our physical appearance stays silent, even when our mental appearance is screaming. At times, our physical appearance smiles even if our mental presence is crying.
Always remember that our appearance not only deceives others. Knowingly or unknowingly, we also deceive ourselves. Are we aware of the consequences which we have to face when we allow our physical appearance to lie to our mental appearance? Do we notice the after-effects of the betrayal of our physical appearance with our mental appearance? Sometimes we do, and sometimes we don’t. In any case, the important thing to be noticed that how many of us try to change it?
There is no denying the fact that sometimes, it requires courage to contradict. Nonetheless, one thing which also needs to be actualized is that we only need courage initially. Gradually, we become habituated to it and eventually, we start enjoying it.
Moreover, it is when we reveal our true appearance to others, others show their real appearance to us. It is as simple as that and of course, we always want to see the actual appearance of others. We should not wait for others to initiate. We must always initiate.
It is the initiation, which enforces our aura on others. Be it any emotion, positive or negative, we should reveal it. We should never worry about losing people. It may take time for them to handle our true appearance, but trust me; the ones who love us will stay. We should not feel sorry for the people who leave as it is always good for everyone in the long run.
‘It is only us, who have to decide that whether we want to become negatives of a photograph, which can be many; or we want to become an original, which can only be one.’